Listen to Your Parents and Friends
Everybody is capable of self-deception. There is nothing like a strong romantic attraction to slow down your brain processes. When you want a relationship really, really badly, you can become quite blind to things other people can see. You run the risk of making a lifelong commitment to someone who may later cause you immense pain.
How does your boyfriend treat his parents? Is he courteous and respectful toward you? What is her reputation when she is away from you? Does she tell the truth? Does she keep her promises? Does he build you up when he’s away from you?
Although still common in places like India, arranged marriages are long out of style in America. But I’ll bet Isaac was eternally glad that his father helped him find a wonderful woman like Rebekah to be his life partner. Abraham commissioned a trusted servant to find a godly woman for his son: “I want you to swear by the Lord, the God of heaven and the God of earth, that you will not get a wife for my son from the . . . Canaanites, among whom I am living” (Genesis 24:3).
Do you trust your parents and friends enough to ask for their advice about the people you are interested in dating? If they give it, will you listen?