Your Influence As a Woman


Even if we never do or say anything publicly, we still have enormous power to influence those around us for good or for bad.

Dear Sister,

I would like to share with you a few thoughts on the influence we have as sisters.

Our influence as women is much greater than we think. Even if we never do or say anything publicly, we still have enormous power to influence those around us for good or bad with our behavior, values, attitude and words. This is especially true in regard to our families.

1. Our influence as wives:

Consider the influence Queen Jezebel had on her husband, King Ahab. Even prior to his marriage, Ahab’s testimony before God was bad: “Ahab the son of Omri did evil in the sight of the Lord more than all who were before him” (1 Kings 16:30).

However, Ahab’s bent toward evil turned into a landslide of corruption and idolatry after he got married, and the Bible gives us the reason why: “Surely there was no one like Ahab who sold himself to do evil in the sight of the Lord, because Jezebel his wife incited him” (1 Kings 21:25).

Consider the influence Queen Esther had on her husband, King Ahasuerus. Ahasuerus was a pagan king who knew little or nothing about the true and living God. His right-hand man Haman had tricked him into signing a decree that would destroy the Jews throughout his kingdom.

Queen Esther, who never had a choice regarding her marriage to the king, was a godly young Jewish woman. She trusted in the Lord, prayed, fasted and put her life on the line to save her people. She approached her husband with respect, humility and wisdom. And through Esther’s positive influence on her husband, the Jews were saved and wicked Haman was killed, along with many other enemies of the Jews. Mordecai, Esther’s cousin who was a righteous man and loyal to the king, became his second in command. Ahasuerus finally had a man he could trust and who was guided by the wisdom of God.

What is your influence on your husband? So many times in the ministry, leaders, missionaries and pastors end up making compromises in following and serving the Lord because they were influenced by their wives’ self-centered attitudes. On the other hand, a godly woman’s attitude and words can encourage and strengthen her husband’s walk with God in such a positive way that his service for the Lord is greatly blessed and multiplies.

2. Our influence as mothers:

The following proverb expresses accurately a mother’s powerful influence in the lives of her children: “The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.”

 Mothers mold their children more than anyone else, because during the formative years they are almost constantly together. To a great extent, mothers determine the future of the next generation by what they transfer to their children from their own lives.

Consider Jezebel’s influence on the next two generations. Athaliah, Ahab and Jezebel’s daughter, got married to King Jehoram of Judah. She turned out just like her mother, influencing her husband toward evil. Consequently God said about Jehoram: “He walked in the way of the kings of Israel, just as the house of Ahab did (for Ahab’s daughter was his wife), and he did evil in the sight of the Lord (2 Chronicles 21:6).

Then Ahaziah, Jehoram and Athaliah’s son (and Jezebel’s grandson), became king, and the Bible records: “He also walked in the ways of the house of Ahab, for his mother was his counselor to do wickedly. And he did evil in the sight of the Lord like the house of Ahab, for they were his counselors after the death of his father, to his destruction” (2 Chronicles 22:3–4).

Consider Lois’s influence on the next two generations. Lois was a woman of sincere faith, who passed on the same quality of faith to her daughter Eunice who passed it on to her son Timothy. The apostle Paul wrote about them in his letter to Timothy: “For I am mindful of the sincere faith within you, which first dwelt in your grandmother Lois, and your mother Eunice, and I am sure that it is in you as well” (2 Timothy 1:5).

Timothy became the apostle Paul’s true son in the faith, his most trusted and faithful co-worker and the one whom he left in charge of his life’s work before he was martyred.

What is your influence on your children? Whether we are aware of it or not, as mothers we influence our children’s future and spiritual life the most by what we are ourselves. The atmosphere we create in our homes and even our silent attitudes will shape their lives. Therefore let us be careful and diligent to walk according to the Word of God.

In Christ's love,


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