Don't take your spouse for granted. Genuinely appreciate him or her.
I am so glad…that you always keep me in your thoughts. 1 Corinthians 11:2, NLT
I (Teresa) am usually not one to get emotional at weddings, but one ceremony David and I attended recently was different. The groom had been widowed a few years prior, and he was thrilled to be marrying a new young bride. They were clearly in love, but seeing the mix of pain, admiration, and genuine affection was heart-wrenching.
After that wedding, I started asking myself some questions about my relationship with David. How would I respond if something happened to him? Is there anything that I would regret or wish I'd done differently? I came to this conclusion: I think I would want to have told David how much I appreciate him more often.
That day I wrote down all the things I appreciated about my husband. The list was long. It included his commitment to work hard and provide for our family, his leadership in our church and our community, how he loves to play with his kids and grandkids, his generosity and gentle spirit.
As I ended my list, I was struck with how often I fail to recognize these qualities in David. Sometimes I'm too preoccupied with my own agenda to notice his uniqueness. At other times I am too easily preoccupied with my complaints. I was saddened by how infrequently I verbalize my "thank you's."
I gave my list to David that evening. "Sweetheart, I just want you to know how much I love you and how much you mean to me and this family:' He beamed from ear to ear.
I know I met an important need for David that night. He still keeps that list in his briefcase. In fact, I noticed the tattered edges of the paper the other day.
What would be on a list of ten things you genuinely appreciate about your spouse?
Lord, let me never take for granted the gift You’ve given in my spouse.