Wordy Women


We were created to be our man’s helper and as hard as it is for us, that means putting our needs behind His.

Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” (Genesis 2:18, ESV)

“Give us the Reader’s Digest Version!” That's what my four brothers would say to me when I was telling them a story and getting a little too long-winded. It’s said that women speak an average of 45,000 - 60,000 words a day and men 15,000 - 20,000. Big surprise! Any woman who is married could have told you that. A healthy marriage needs good communication, but how do you communicate effectively when only one party is doing all the talking?

Last week, my poor man came home after teaching university students and I followed him up the stairs, my jaw bone flapping faster than the excess flesh hanging off my triceps. He turned and looked at me. His eyes reflected a wounded dog that had just been hit and left for dead. He’s a man...and he just spent three hours talking. His word bank was empty. But I had spent my day crunching numbers at a quiet desk. I had a full arsenal left to shoot off! God said it was not good for man to be alone. Some days I’m not too sure my husband agrees.

We were created to be our man’s helper and as hard as it is for us, that means putting our needs behind His. Or in my case, biting my tongue and letting the man have some peace even when I want to speak mine. A good husband lays his life down for his bride, just as Christ did for the church. I’m blessed to be married to a man like that; thank the Lord! In fact, I’ve learned that thanking the Lord is the answer. There are some days when the most loving thing I can do is spend my unused verbal arsenal talking with the Husband who never tires of hearing from me. Let’s put our faith where our mouth is—and make use of all that energy. Our earthly husbands will thank us...just maybe not with words.



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