Wives, Honor Your "Little Boy"
We challenged Andrea to trust God with her husband and be confident that God would bring to Tom's attention whatever changes He wanted to bring about. As she came to trust God to do this work, she was able to focus on better understanding her husband, including his tough-guy exterior. Andrea was amazed to find that underneath Tom's self-reliant exterior was an insecure, frightened little boy trying desperately to cover up his feelings of inadequacy. Once she understood this, she was able to let go of her mothering behavior and try to take care of the little boy in more appropriate ways.
There is a child in all of us. Some childlike qualities—laughter, simple fun, vulnerability, and compassion—can have a positive effect on a marriage. However, childish insecurities, inadequacies and fears can prove to be painful.
Teresa and I have found both the good and the bad childlike qualities in each other. We struggle sometimes with insecurities and inadequacies, but the struggles have provided opportunities for growth. When we can lovingly reassure and accept each other, we experience many tender moments and deepened intimacy.
Happy is the husband who has a wife and not a second mother. A helpmate and not another boss. A "completer" and not a "competer."
How will you resist parenting your spouse and comfort the insecure child?
God, help me to encourage the child in my spouse.
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