Why Guys Aren't the Reason I Dress Modestly
“Sometimes I wonder why I even dress modestly. I mean, guys see immodest women all the time anyway. It’s not like they don’t know what cleavage is. I’m starting to wonder if modesty is really worth it.”
Those were the words of a girl who opened up to me about her discouragement. As she shared her heart, I felt like I was looking in a mirror. Her words could have been my own. I had experienced similar thoughts running through my own mind.
Why am I even doing this?
Do guys really appreciate the effort that dressing modestly takes?
Do they realize how inconvenient modesty can be at times?
Does this even matter?
I felt like I was dressing modestly for guys, but most of them didn’t seem to appreciate the effort I put into it. Can you relate?
Where I Went Wrong
Looking back, I see where I went wrong with my perspectives on modesty and why I looked at my closet and felt mostly . . . discouraged. Maybe some of you are struggling for the same reason.
My biggest problem was this: I was ultimately dressing modestly for guys and not for God.
It’s a fact of life that people will fail us. They will let us down. If people are the reason why we do what we do, we will lose our motivation to press on. God helped me realize that my motivation for modesty (and anything else in life) must be rooted in a desire to honor and glorify my King. Christ must be the ultimate reason for why I do what I do.
A Better Motivation
I still seek to dress modestly, but I do it for reasons bigger and better than impressing or protecting the guys around me. Guys are no longer the main reason for why I dress modestly; God is.
Here are a few reasons for why I dress modestly:
-- Because I desire to honor God with my life.
-- Because I want to represent Christ well.
-- Because I understand that God created men and women differently and want to bear God’s image in ways that are uniquely feminine.
-- Because I want to bless and encourage the men around me.
-- Because I want to point others to Christ and not my body.
Don’t make guys the main reason for why you choose modesty. Make Christ the main reason instead. Choose modesty . . .
-- Because you love God.
-- Out of an overflow of your understanding of why God created clothes in the first place.
-- Because you understand the value of the gospel and how your clothing is a reflection of that incredible truth.
I’ll never forget the words Susan Hunt shared with me at conference a few years back:
Make sure that everything you write is centered around Christ and the gospel. He should ultimately be the center of why you do what you do.
Wow! Her words apply to what we do and what we wear. Every part of our identity, including our wardrobe, should be centered around Christ and the gospel.
I want you to evaluate your own heart. Ask yourself these questions:
1. Why do I dress modestly?
2. Why do I have convictions in this area?
3. Who am I striving to please?
By Bethany Baird
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