Whose Idea Is Better?
"For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways," declares the Lord. Isaiah 55:8, NIV
Over the years Teresa and I have wasted a lot of time and a lot of words arguing over whose "thoughts" are better. We've had strife over every imaginable marriage issue, including such things as, "There's no gas in my car," "There's no money in my checkbook," and "Why didn't you call and let me know they were coming home with you?"
Our list of marital "issues" over the decades is endless, but even though we've been slow learners, we've found a better way.
We begin with the principles that neither of us has thoughts, ideas, and plans that are "best." They may be good, but as today's Scripture passage points out, they are not His thoughts and therefore can't be the best. The bottom line is, God's thoughts, ideas, and plans are second to none.
The famed missionary George Mueller prayed this way: "Father, I have my thoughts about this issue, but I want Your thoughts. I don't want to have my own will about the matter—I want Your will." As Teresa and I both prayerfully approach the Lord in that way, He brings us together and causes His ways to prevail.
As we've learned to approach the issues of our marriage in this way, we've not only enjoyed more harmony, but we've also come to appreciate one another's perspectives. I've come to greatly appreciate Teresa's insight into people, her sensitivity to our kids' needs, and many other areas. I would not have come to fully appreciate these strengths in her had we not spent time together seeking God's thoughts, ideas, and plans.
What issues do you need to bring to the Lord for resolution today?
Father, help my spouse and me to remember to bring issues to You in prayer, trusting You for the best because You know best.