What Will—and Won’t—Draw Others to Christ
After I had finished speaking at a workshop at the last True Woman ’10 conference in Chattanooga, a woman came to me seeking counsel. It was obvious that God had been stirring her own heart at this conference. But as she contemplated going home, she was discouraged.
Her husband, she said, professed faith in Christ, but his life didn’t match his profession. She found herself conflicted between wanting to live a life that was wholly consecrated to Christ, and a desire to live in oneness with her husband. What should she do?
I gave her some general counsel about not compromising her faith while seeking to win her husband without a word, and my wife and I prayed for her.
Later, I thought about what I wished I had told her . . .
I wished I had told her that her holiness matters to God, and she should seek to live a life that is righteous, morally upright, and blameless. At the same time, she should be careful not to parade her holiness before her husband. God cares about her obedience to Him. But her desire for holiness isn’t what will make her walk with Christ attractive to her husband.
Instead, it is as her life manifests the fruit of the Spirit–love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness and self-control – that her husband will see in her qualities that he desires to be true in his own life.
God does indeed care about her moral convictions and standards, but her husband won’t. He will not be impressed by the things she says “no” to.
But as she kindly, compassionately, humbly loves and serves her husband, looking for ways to bless him, support him, and encourage him, he’ll find himself being drawn to the Christ he sees in her.
I believe that principle is true in all of our relationships with people who don’t share our spiritual convictions. They won’t be drawn to Christ primarily because our arguments for the Christian life make sense to them. And they won’t be drawn to Christ because we live lives with a commitment to a higher moral standard than they do.
Ultimately, the only thing that will draw them to Christ is the Spirit of God working through the word of God. Faith comes by hearing a message about Christ.
But when we live lives marked by self-sacrifice and love for others, we show the power of Christ at work in our own lives. And that can help soften the soil of a human heart to make it more ready to receive the seed of God’s word when it comes.
Would the people who know you best–a spouse, your children, family members, co-workers–would they say that you are a person who radiates love? Joy? Peace? Patience? And all the rest?
The same power that raised Christ from the dead is at work in you. It is His power at work in you that makes it possible for you to live the kind of life that puts His glory and grace on display.