Water the Grass on Your Side of the Fence
As I think back to the day Greg proposed, I still love him and am thankful that God gave me the man I needed. At the same time, I’m reevaluating how much intentional energy I’ve been putting into our marriage and wondering how to build an even better one. So I asked friends for their marriage advice and wanted to share it with you.
2. Nag God, not your hubby. Yes, your bathroom has been under construction since last Thanksgiving, but praying about supporting your husband in his everyday life will get you much further than asking him daily when he’s going to finish.
3. Don’t go to bed mad. Do go to bed at the same time. Have “pillow talk” between just the two of you. Learn about each other as you grow and change.
4. Pray for each other every day. Pray together often.
5. Do a chore you don’t like--yes, even cleaning the toilet shows you care.
6. Leave love notes in odd places--in a jacket pocket, in the car, on the bathroom mirror, in a wallet or purse.
7. Learn each other’s love language and “say” I love you in that language. Doing the dishes for your spouse might seem like a great way to say I love you, but when their love language is quality time, they’d rather have dirty dishes in the kitchen and you next to them on the couch.
8. Diligently protect your marriage from infidelity. Don’t spend enormous amounts of time with a member of the opposite sex. Guard your heart.
9. Work more on your marriage than you did on the wedding. That was just a day; this is for a lifetime.
10. Plan date nights. No, I don’t mean going to the grocery store together. A real date.
11. Listen when your spouse talks to you. Listening means being attentive, responding when asked, not judging, not interrupting, being fully engaged.
12. Give lots of grace, just like you get from God every day.
13. Write down five ways that you see God working through your spouse and show them your list. Say thank you!
14. Hold hands in public so much your kids get uncomfortable.
15. Model a loving, healthy relationship for your kids. You have the biggest influence on the husband or wife they’re going to be someday.