Train Up a Child
Train up a child in the way he should go, when he is old he will not turn from it. The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender. Proverbs 22:6-7
Proverbs tells us that if we “train” up a child in the WAY he should go, he will not turn from it. I believe this statement to be true, and it has become true in the lives of my four children.
This principle sounds so easy, but in the “real world”, it is hard to accomplish. It is hard because when “life” starts going, it is just easier and faster to make our children’s beds for them. It is easier to dress our 3 year old than to wait around on the Pokey Little Puppy. It is easier to pick up our children’s shoes, or put away the toys, or to do that third-grade school project. (Sure, the child is there watching you DO the project, so the child is “helping,” right?) But, ladies, read verse 7: “The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender.”
Why is that verse even included here? I believe it is included because if we as moms DO everything for our child, when our child grows up he will be poor! I know I just lost some of you because you fainted at the thought of your precious child not being a success, but listen to me for one minute.
How can your child be a success when he becomes an adult if you have done EVERYTHING for him his whole life? When your child hits the age of 21, a switch is not going to flip so that he becomes ambitious, hard working, a great money manager, and leader. NO, these traits are learned. You as a mom need to TRAIN up your child, and THEN when he is old he will not depart from them.
Think about it. You may be thinking, “When do I start this process?” You start as early as you can. Even at age 2, a child can start learning to “help” mom out around the house. You are also teaching your child that the world does not revolve around him. What a concept! It won’t just happen; it is taught! The man that wrote Proverbs was Solomon, the wisest man ever to live. We would be wise as moms to listen to his advice, and start putting it into practice!