The Right People


God knows our relationship with Him is the most important thing, but He also created us to need and want community.

We are in our third week of diving deeper into the book of Ecclesiastes. Join us by downloading the weekly guide for spiritual growth and reading the article below.

By yourself you’re unprotected. With a friend you can face the worst. Can you round up a third? A three-stranded rope isn’t easily snapped.

Ecclesiastes 4:12 

As we read the book of Ecclesiastes, the depressing tone of “nothing in this world matters” can get a bit repetitive and disheartening. However, there is one thing we can find great encouragement and empowerment in, and it is the idea that we need community. 

The advantages that come with friendship are clear when you read Ecclesiastes 4:12. God knows our relationship with Him is the most important thing, but He also created us to need and want community. Even in Genesis 2:18 He says, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Notice that not only did He say that it was not good to be alone, but He also said there was a helper that was suitable. If you look up the definition of suitable you will find “right or appropriate for a particular person, purpose, or situation.” God knew we would need specific people surrounding us to help us get to where He is calling us. It is of great importance that we are discerning and intentional with the people we let in our lives. 

Find your people and ask God to be at the center of those relationships. Ask God to bring the right people – the ones for what God has for you. He knew we would not always be strong, healthy, or close to Him, and in those moments, we would need one another to be able to fight. We need one another to encourage, spiritually fight, and to speak truth when we find ourselves weak, hopeless, and doubting. Find people who want to see you and your family fulfill the purpose God has for you. The ones who will cheer you on when you have even the smallest victories. These friends should be people who will not let you sit in your junk but will give you a better perspective. The friends who will face the worst with you are the ones willing to fight the enemy in intercession with you. Those are the ones that will truly, genuinely be there when you are facing the worst. Cherish them. Bless them. Reciprocate those gestures back. 

Be the friend you have needed in the past to them. The Bible says in Proverbs 18:24, “There is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” Pray for God to bring that friend. If you are single or dating, I urge you to pray for those friends that would help you not lose hope in the waiting and that would encourage you to trust God with everything before you find the one. Pray for a significant other that would not just love you but would love God and be a suitable helper for the purpose God has for your life! This is huge. 

For those of you that are married, pray that God would show you the gift and helper you have in your spouse and that He would give you the revelation of how you both are to help one another in your callings. They are God’s provision for you and there is a reason God brought you together. There is a purpose that can only be fulfilled through you working together. There is no one out there that should be closer to you than your spouse. You should be the one cheering the loudest for them. You should be the one praying for them the hardest. You should be the one encouraging them and making room for them to be all God has created them to be. Also, be intentional to ask God for protection, trust, joy, and vulnerability around this God-given relationship. 

For those who find themselves single again, pray for the right people to come and encourage you, pray with you, and point you to Christ in everything you go through and set out to do. Pray for friends who will support and champion the calling on your life. 

Lastly, we were all meant for relationship with Jesus Christ first and foremost so be intentional with Him and just like it says in Matthew 6:33, “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” Seek Him and He will put you in the right place, at the right time, and surround you with the right people. 


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