The Importance of Expectations


Describing expectations is a sign of a strong leader.

My daughter was recently married, and looking back, I’m utterly amazed at the lessons learned through the wedding process. Many of the lessons were personal “notes to self” but there were also some leadership ah-ha’s along the way. Take, for instance, the church wedding coordinator role.

The church provided us with a wonderful coordinator named Carolyn. Carolyn was incredibly professional from our very first phone call to reserve the chapel. She was thorough in communicating all pertinent information, explained all of our guidelines, clarified and restated every decision, and followed up with written correspondence. Expectations were crystal clear.

On the evening of the rehearsal, I admittedly was a tad concerned that Carolyn would come across as too stern, but I was wrong!  Because Carolyn had laid out the expectations up front, she was in a position to give grace on tweaking the wedding to fit our wishes. On the wedding day, those well laid plans modified for us were now a joyous ceremony and celebration as Carolyn directed, supported, and even had lots of laughs with the wedding party.

What’s the leadership lesson here? 

  1. The strength of a leader is the foundation he/she lays for those he/she is leading. What are the expectations? What are the essentials? What must happen?
  2. Once that foundation is laid, how can it be made even better to produce optimum results? 
  3. Finally, a strong leader will recognize that once everything is in place and ready to go... she can enter the experience with the same excitement and joy as those she is leading.                                   

It's important that a church leader, responsible for the affairs in God's house, be looked up to—not pushy, not short-tempered, not a drunk, not a bully, not money-hungry. She must welcome people, be helpful, wise, fair, reverent, have a good grip on herself, and have a good grip on the Message (Titus 1:5, The Message).

Written by Meg Hancock

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