The Couple That Prays Together, Stays Together
Is anyone among you suffering? Let him pray. James 5:13
The mystery of two becoming one in marriage is only possible through an intimate relationship with the One who ordained it. Prayer is the avenue of relationship with this One. Marriage was intended to live out of mutual divine dependency. As Teresa and I go to the Lord in prayer and depend upon Him to relieve any suffering, comfort any pain, and meet any need, He provides an unlimited source of love for our spouse. Prayer acknowledges our absolute dependency upon God and draws upon Him as the source of abundant love.
Teresa and I have also discovered that prayer brings humility to a relationship and increases compassion for one another. As I pray with Teresa, I am reminded of my own need for grace. As we pray together about issues with the kids or decisions in our ministry, I am challenged to humbly acknowledge my inadequacies and submit myself to God's unmerited favor.
Over the years I have prayed for Teresa as well. I've prayed for her as she's dealt with difficult family issues. I've gone to the Lord as friends have moved away or hurt her deeply. It's been those times that the Lord has brought a special tenderness in my heart for Teresa. As I have reflected on her sufferings and asked the Lord to give me His heart for Teresa, I've been overwhelmed with compassion for my wife.
Finally, Teresa and I have found benefit in this simple prayer: "Lord, I want what You want; help me discern it and give me power to live it." Regardless of the issue or the conflict, as we pray this type of prayer together we experience oneness in our desire to know and do His will.
When could you pray with your spouse about an area of struggle? In what area might the Lord want to sensitize your heart as you pray for your spouse?
God, help us to take prayer seriously in our marriage.