Teaching About Worth
I, therefore, . . . entreat you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called. Ephesians 4:1, NASB
"How can I get my wife back?" Allen asked in our first meeting together. He and his wife, Jeannie, were struggling, and Allen sensed her pulling away from him.
Teresa and I had known Jeannie for several months. I remember her words to us: "I've just needed Allen to accept me the way I am, to quit trying to make me like him." She explained that Allen, who was not a Christian, tied his own sense of worth to his accomplishments. And he as much as told Jeannie that she wasn't worth much if she didn't accomplish certain things.
Jeannie not only didn't need Allen's pressure to make her into someone she was not, but she also needed him to stop trying so hard to make himself feel worthy through his work and activities. She needed Allen to "be" someone—an accepting someone.
The Scripture passage from Ephesians is a great reminder that the Christian life is a "walk" and a lifestyle, not a to-do list! Like Allen, many people assume that they need to "do things" in order to be a success. But they often find that working too hard hinders relationships with others. Intimate relationships are founded on first being accepted, loved, and valued.
Over time, Teresa and I had the privilege of leading Allen to the inexpressible joy of knowing Jesus Christ. At first he struggled with the fact that he could do nothing to earn Christ's love but needed instead simply to receive Him. As Christ taught Allen about His acceptance, Allen was able to pass on that acceptance to Jeannie. And she came back to a strong relationship with her husband.
How can you find your worth in Christ? How will you show your acceptance to your spouse today?
Lord, teach us that our worth is found in You, not in what we do.