If your toddler is throwing consistent tantrums about your clothing choices for them, is there anything you can do about it?
Several weeks ago, a mom wrote complaining that her 4-year-old daughter would not wear the clothes picked out the night before, even if she had agreed to the selection when it was made, even if she had picked them out herself! Mom said, "When we're at home, she can wear what she wants, but if we're going out, I pick her outfit for her. She never fails to cry and pitch a fit. I make her wear it anyway. Am I taking this too seriously?"
I replied, "No, you're not taking this too seriously. This is the start of even bigger problems if not nipped in the bud. Tell her that her doctor says YOU are to pick out her clothes the night before. Wake her up in the morning, set a timer for 15 minutes, and leave her room. If she's not dressed by the time the timer goes off, then 'the doctor' says that means she needs more sleep and has to go to bed right after supper that night. Do this like clockwork for a week and let me know how it's going."
One week later, mom wrote, "Thank you so much for your advice. I have used your 'doctor' technique with my daughter continually for about a week. She has yet to go to bed early. She tells me she just 'loves' whatever outfit I pick out. I even tried an outfit I had problems getting her to wear and she complained to me about it for a minute. I simply said 'Oh, well, you can wear it or go to sleep early tonight; you decide.' It worked like a charm! No more clothing drama! Yay!"
From "Oy vey!" to "Yay!" in a week. Not bad. Another diagnosis averted. I will keep saying it and trying to prove it until I'm no longer able to say anything coherent: Raising children is not rocket science. You simply take one part cool, calm and collected, blend that with one part confidence in the legitimacy of your authority, sprinkle with a sense of humor and a dash of ingenuity, and you've got it!