Taking into Account Another's Ideas, Feelings, and Needs
Julius treated Paul kindly. Acts 27:3
Doctor Luke tells us of the apostle Paul's journey to Rome as a prisoner.
Luke recorded how at the port city of Sidon, Paul received favorable treatment from a Roman official, Julius, who allowed him to "go to his friends and receive care." Julius gave consideration to Paul's need for friendship and support.
In the marriage context, consideration means looking beyond someone's status or position and discerning the unique needs of that specific person. It involves taking the initiative to express care to a person based on what you know of him or her.
Consideration in marriage is based upon becoming a lifelong "student" of your spouse—seeking to understand that person so that you can best love him or her.
The apostle Peter referred to this when he encouraged husbands to "live with your wives in an understanding way" (1 Peter 3:7, NASB). Proverbs encourages a wife to "[look] well to the ways" of her household (31:27, NASB). This kind of understanding paves the way for loving consideration of one's spouse.
I (David) can show Teresa consideration like no one else because I know her so well. For example, I know to buy her flowers and not candy. I know the colors she likes and the brand names of her favorite perfume and soap. I know she likes to socialize but not stay out too late. I know she prefers me to drive, but with caution. I know she likes me to open doors for her. She likes to "people watch," shop, and drink coffee—decaf after five o'clock in the evening.
I "consider" all these special things that make Teresa Teresa—and I love her.
What things can you do for your spouse today that only you
would know to do?
Thank you, God, for my unique special partner and for giving me the ability to give him or her consideration only a spouse can give.