Should Kids Stick with Hated Piano Lessons?

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Forcing your kids to pursue something they don't have interest in isn't always a good idea.

Through my website, a parent recently asked if children who don't want to continue piano lessons should be forced to stay the course regardless.

I answered that I don't approve, generally, of forcing children into activities they don't want to be in. Making a child continue in an activity he doesn't enjoy makes it less likely he will ever again express interest in anything for fear of being forced to continue if he discovers he doesn't like it. Where optional activities are concerned, childhood should be a time of fairly free-form experimentation.

Another parent wrote back: "I understand your position on not forcing piano practice and that kids should be free to figure out what hobbies they have. But I'm in the same boat - we bought a piano and we're paying for lessons. You're saying we shouldn't force practice? My parents let me quit music and I regret it to this day."

My response: If you're saying your parents made a mistake letting you quit music lessons, I disagree. You made the mistake. Your parents allowed you the freedom to do so and I applaud them for it. That is the greatest freedom of all, one that all too many of today's kids are being denied by well-intentioned but short-sighted parents. I will submit that the outcome to you of being forced to take lessons when you didn't want to would not have been good. Today, you wish you'd continued your musical learning. But as they say, hindsight is 20/20.

On the other hand, if a child asks parents to invest in expensive musical equipment (a piano, for example), and has promised in return to take lessons for a specific period of time, then her feet should be held to the fire of the agreement. That's about obligations, however, not music.

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