Sex Through the Eyes of a Virgin Christian Girl


Here are a few "perspective changers" on sex from self-described virgin Christian girl, Salem Afangideh.

SEX. It is one of the most talked-about topics in our culture, yet it is also the most perverted from the way God originally intended it to be. I feel very unqualified to talk about sex because, as you have probably figured out from the title of this article, I have no experience in this area. However, God and I have had a few conversations about it. Since He made sex, who better to talk about it with?

Here are a few perspective changers on sex:

1. God made sex: Think about that the next time you are in doubt of how creative, funny, and intricate God is.

2. Sex is fun: In the Christian world, when I was growing up, the older generations’ strategy for trying to keep the teenagers abstinent was to make sex seem dirty and bad. This strategy really backfired when teenagers started having sex and discovered how fun it was; it was much harder to keep them away from doing it. While I would not know about how fun sex is, I have been blessed with Godly couples who have told me it is so worth the wait. Instead of viewing sex as this bad and dirty thing to avoid, I see it as a wonderful and fun gift God has created for me to enjoy in the season of marriage.

3. Sex was made to be within the context of marriage: Eccl. 3:11 says, “He [God] has made everything beautiful in its time.” Premarital sex will never be as fulfilling as sex within a marriage.

Sex within a marriage makes you feel safe because your spouse has chosen you over every other person in the world. No matter how much a guy tells you he loves you while dating/courting, if he has not paid the price called marriage, he does not deserve to know what your body looks like. Sex was made to be the final glue that bonds two people together, it was created to be a seal for people who have bonded spiritually, emotionally, and intellectually in marriage. It gets messy when you bond sexually with someone first and then try to figure out the spiritual, emotional, and intellectual connection.

For my sisters who have already chosen to be sexually active, I do not want to bring condemnation, but a challenge to choose purity. We worship a God who delights in restoring us, and if you decide to live a life of purity, He will empower and strengthen you to do it. You will be in a much better position to be an advocate of purity because you have been down both roads.

4. Sex is all about serving: This would have to be the biggest shift from how our culture looks at sex to the way God sees sex. The act of having sex (or not having sex before marriage) is all about serving another person. For the unmarried Christian girl that is striving to save sex for her future husband, you are serving him in a beautiful way and showing him he can trust you after you are married. The fact that you waited for him means more than you will ever know. You are also serving our Lord Jesus Christ by honoring Him with your body. For the married Christian woman who chooses to have sex with her husband after a crazy busy day, you are serving him with your body in the most beautiful way. And as you serve him, you are also serving our Lord Jesus Christ.

How do you see sex?

-Salem Afangideh.

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