Sex: Some Assembly Required

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Sex is a lot like Legos. It’s not always easy—and that’s okay.

It’s not always easy—and that’s okay.

Sex is a lot like Legos.

. . . Okay, cut me some slack. As the mom of three boys, there seem to be Legos everywhere I look! Still, I think it's a good analogy.

The first time a child sees a box of Legos, he might be naïve enough to think that the box actually contains a toy that looks like the cool picture on the front. Imagine his disappointment when he opens the Lego box to find hundreds of seemingly random pieces of plastic instead of the Batmobile or starship that was promised by the box cover.

The genius and fun of Legos is creativity. First, you follow the directions and build the design represented on the box. But then no child can resist the desire to build something new—to tear the blocks apart and start another creation.

Back to sex. The world may have painted for you a picture on the box: a blissful experience of exquisite pleasure and oneness. Perhaps you have been surprised and disappointed to find that sex has created more conflict in your marriage than intimacy, more pain than pleasure. The metaphoric "pieces" of this gift seem to be strewn around your bedroom, bearing no semblance to the gift you expected.

Every marriage experiences some obstacle in physical intimacy: differences in desire, medical issues, recovery from sexual abuse, baggage from poor choices in the past, involvement with porn, or a poor body image, to name just a few. I'm sure you've had times in your marriage, as I have, when you ask God, "Wasn't this supposed to be a gift? With all due respect, God, I think the gift is broken. Any chance I can exchange it for something else?"

The Lord asks you and me to view the gift of sex as a gift of building. Just like that box of Legos, the joy is found in creating. Regardless of the frustration and difficulty you and your husband may face in physical intimacy, the Lord wants to build something far more precious than just a few moments of physical ecstasy. Unselfishness, grace, forgiveness, unconditional acceptance—each can be forged within the furnace of seeking the Lord through the obstacles you face in the bedroom. Will you invite him to build?

Of all the toys we have purchased for our boys over the years, only the Legos seem to have avoided the garage sales. Even my teenage sons occasionally build a spaceship or castle. Similarly, the cheap pleasures the world offers may look shiny and new on the shelf. But the gift of intimacy the Lord has given you and your husband is designed to last and grow sweeter even through trials and hardship. Nurture it, cherish it and build it before the author of love.

Written by Dr. Juli Slattery


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