Saying Goodbye to a Friendship


How do you know when it's time for a friendship to end?

So I've had this best friend for a couple years. She's gorgeous, super-talented, and friendly. We did everything together-our schedules fit together so that we saw each other every day of the week. But this year, our friendship started to dim a little bit...um, well, a lot.

I'm not too sure when it started, but we began this cycle of being inseparable for four weeks or so and then not talking for a week. It's not like we ignored each other, but our conversations would just be awkward and short. Slowly the cycle got shorter and shorter until we hardly ever talked for three weeks at a time. Finally, we came to the point where she asked me if we were going to stop being friends. 

I was totally against that. I loved our friendship the way it was, but something was completely different, and it wouldn't change back. Our relationship had evolved into a lot of insecurity and jealousy, and we didn't know how to fix it. We sought a lot of help from a lot of different people. We apologized again and again. We told each other exactly what we were feeling. We prayed through it, and nothing really helped bend us back into shape. After a lot of hurt, we decided that we were just changing teenage girls, and we didn't really fit together at this point in life. We both grew closer to other people, and it wasn't anyone's fault.

Even though that was hard, it taught us a lot.  It was okay for us to move on. We may not be as close as we used to be, but we still care for each other. No hard feelings. We both have new friends, and we're both all right with that. It's still a huge bummer that we didn't work out, but we didn't want to just poof out of each other's lives. We had to walk away. Moral of the story: I'm fine. Actually, I'm better. I have more energy emotionally now that I don't have to keep giving where I'm not receiving.

What about you? If you are in any kind of relationship that's hurting you or weighing you down, it might be time to move on. Check with Jesus. He usually knows just what needs to happen.

A righteous man is cautious in friendship (Proverbs 12:26).

A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother (Proverbs 18:24).

This post was written by Lexi Gresh.

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