Restoring the Dream
Women are admitting promiscuity isn’t really getting them what they wanted after all—because as women we always stand to lose so much more than men when we give in. When femininity and virtue are no longer honored as noble, women are tempted to turn to the lesser powers of seduction and slip on the garments of sensuality. If women never connect with the purpose of their feminine beauty, honor, and dignity, they become incredibly vulnerable to sexual exploitation.
I want you to have the courage to see this struggle for what it really is: You are being stripped of your power, dignity, and clothing by a serpent! You need to see this and be outraged. For only then will you be brave enough to fight your true enemy and give your total allegiance to the faithful and true King. Then you’ll wake up and come to the realization it is not men or our husbands we war against, but the enemy of our souls. We must awaken from the nightmare and begin to cry out for the restoration of the dream.
It is that cry deep in your soul to which I speak… that empty, secret place sex cannot fill. You long for a deeper love, intimacy, and communion than a man can bring to you. You long for a safer haven than those found on earth. You cry out for the love of a heavenly Prince. And I have a secret to tell you, whether you believe it or not… He longs desperately for you as well. He is the very one who planted this seed of desire deep in the recesses of your heart, and He alone can fulfill your longings.
We will continually be frustrated in our search for fulfillment if we continue to look in all the wrong places. Men are not your problem, nor are they your answer! We need to lift our eyes heavenward, for our help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth (Ps. 121:1-2). Only then and there will we find our source and recover our strength and honor.
As you search your heart today, is there anything that you’re afraid to let go of? Is there anything you worry is too big or too bad for Him to handle? Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal areas of your sexuality or hurts from your past that you have yet to give over to the One who makes all thingsnew. Allow His love to put back to sleep what was awakened in the wrong manner.
Adapted from Kissed the Girls and Made Them Cry: Why Women Lose When They Give In (Thomas Nelson, 2002)