But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins (Matthew 6:15, NIV).
Here is a horrific statistic: 70 percent of second marriages fail. Why is this? Often it is because the new marriage began while unresolved issues still lingered from the divorce. Take the time to resolve these issues and not carry unnecessary baggage into a new relationship.
How can you resolve these issues? First, ask forgiveness from the Lord, as well as from your ex—even if you were the one who was sinned against. Ask the Lord to help you deal with unhealthy behavior on your part so that the same sinful patterns don’t repeat themselves. Seek forgiveness from your children as well, recognizing the devastating effect the divorce has had on their lives and the potentially destructive effect it can have on their future. And then the toughest and most important step—give forgiveness to your ex, cleansing your heart of the resentments, pain, and ill feelings that may still remain.
Before entering into a new marriage, be sure that you have healed from the loss of your previous marriage. If this has not occurred, then you are certainly not ready for remarriage. If you are feeling doubts, God may be telling you to slow down or even leading you to break off the new relationship. Seek God’s will, and be willing to follow His leading.