Relationships Are on Our Minds


Lindsey Wagstaffe asks an important question of single women: Do you and your girlfriends tend to focus more on Jesus or guys in conversation?

When I watch my friends entering healthy, God-exalting relationships, I feel almost as excited as they do themselves—I can't help grinning ear-to-ear and asking endless questions to get all the best details. But out of all the things I'm looking forward to in the future, marriage just can't cut the top of the list anymore.

Ah, some of you are thinking, so this is going to be another "contentment-in-singleness-until-God-rewards-you-with-a-husband" rah-rah, then. Heard it already. Wait up! That's not where I'm going with this. 

Relationships are on our mind. More than a little.

Out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks, Luke 6:45 says. In light of that, how should we be viewing the amount of energy and time we spend talking about guys, relationships, and marriage? When more conversations with our girlfriends slope toward guys than toward Christ, what does that say about what we value more?

This is nothing new or surprising to you. We wish Christ dominated our thoughts more than anything else. But time after time, our thoughts and conversation keep returning to the same well-worn places. Why?

It isn't that desiring marriage or a relationship is problematic. God created us to be drawn to the opposite sex, and marriage is an incredible covenant designed for our holiness and God's glory. But the catechism does not say that the chief end of man is marriage. It says that our goal should be to glorify God and enjoy Him forever—and yet we often operate exactly as if the former were true.

Why shouldn't marriage and guys dominate our thoughts?

What are you looking forward to most in the future? Why?

What specific changes would please God most in your thought life and conversation patterns?

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