Reach Out and Touch
One day some parents brought their children to Jesus so he could touch them and bless them. Mark 10:13, NLT
I (Teresa) am a people watcher. I especially enjoy watching married couples in restaurants. It's amazing how they interact. You can see couples who have obviously drifted chasms apart or the ones who struggle just to maintain a conversation. Couples such as these look awkward just making eye contact and touching minimally.
I've also watched what appeared to be newly married couples. They talk in lively, involved tones. They find any excuse to touch one another. They hold hands across the table or place hands on the others leg as they sit close together. These couples make as much eye contact as possible. They smile and laugh together.
We all know that the early years of love are ignited with new discoveries, but the later years don't have to be filled with complacency and distance. David and I have made a commitment to make "date nights" a priority in our schedule. At least twice a month, we schedule nights when we go out together—just the two of us. During those dates, we decide ways we can act like newlyweds. I'll make a special effort to hold his hand as we watch the movie together. David might lean over to kiss me after we bless our meal. We both make conscious efforts to communicate and display our love for one another.
Our purposeful affection has increased the intensity of our love for one another. It's made our date nights more fun and our marriage more loving. It's those simple gestures of care that have prompted tender moments of compassion, vulnerable sharing, and passionate times of intimacy.
What can you and your spouse do today to bring the tenderness and passion back into your relationship?
Lord, in simple ways, help me be vulnerable in my marriage and reach out to my spouse with a loving touch.