Pushing My Buttons


Is it possible that you need to just be quiet and let God do the reproving in your spouse's life?

The king's heart is in the hands of the Lord, like the rivers of water; He turns it wherever He wishes. Proverbs 21:1

Some of God's most effective reproofs come through the circumstances of life. But I (Teresa) often struggle with wanting to point out problems and alert others of their mistakes—as if God had assigned me the Holy Spirit's job.

David often jokes about a man's "macho button." David says that this button is a mystical place inside a man and that recurrent complain­ing is the only thing that pushes this button. When his wife pushes this button, a man begins to rebel and take on an attitude of, "I wouldn't change now even if I wanted to!"

I'm not sure that every man has this button, but I know my husband does. And this macho button often comes into direct conflict with my tendency to point out problems in others. After many spats and outright arguments over this one particular area, I decided to test the principle of letting David endure reproof. I decided that, for once, I'd wait and see if God would use the circumstances of life to teach my husband what I had been unable to teach.

On our way back from San Antonio, I noticed we needed gas and mentioned it to David. He checked the gauge and decided we could go a few more miles. Although I've had a tendency to harp on and complain about David's habit of letting the gas in our car get too low, this time I kept quiet. When we ran out of gas, I calmly picked up something to read and told him I hoped he enjoyed his walk.

I'm glad to say that the theory only had to be tested twice. We've not run out again.

In what specific area(s) do you need to just be quiet and let God do the reproving in your spouse's life?

Lord, You can change the hearts of kings and spouses. Keep me still so You can do Your work.

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