Pursuit of Happiness


Christian marriage means giving up our rights, but it promises greater joy in return for the sacrifice.

Read: Ephesians 5:25

The American people have developed a delightful sense of entitlement. Since our first day as a country we have enjoyed the unalienable rights to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. This ideal in itself holds no evil, but the manor in which we have twisted it and the implications we have attached to it have caused us to misunderstand the nature of this truth. We have lost the meanings of these words, and redefined them as the rights to wealth, health, and beauty. It is a travesty to reduce the idea of happiness into such fickle trinkets, yet it has seeped into every facet of our lives, our credit cards, and our marriages.

According to the scripture, we voluntarily suspend our rights when we enter into the marriage covenant. 

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her”

Jesus did not maintain his rights as he hung on the cross for us, and it says that men must suspend themselves for their wives as a reflection of Christ’s love for us. Wives are called to submit to their husbands which holds difficulty that hardly needs explaining. Now, this idea of giving yourself up for someone is not at odds with happiness because the fruit that grows far transcends happiness into joy. But it means taking a terrifying first step. It means that you must be willing to give and not receive anything back thus adopting the true heart of service. Then the miracle happens, the joy begins to blossom, and the giving up of your rights transforms from a burden to a blessing. 

What does it take for you to place the importance of your spouse’s life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness above your own? When will you let the American Dream quit defining your marriage?

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