Protecting Our Girls
I want to start a discussion about girls. It seems we have a generation of girls who feel so starved for attention that they will do just about anything—at any age—to get approval. Our culture sends a conflicting message: be more like men emotionally but flaunt what you’ve got physically. As a woman, as much as I try not to, I sometimes find I’ve based my sense of worth on this flawed thinking. As a mother, I want to send a better message to my daughters, my nieces, my daughters’ friends, and the girls I coach.
This passage from 1 Corinthians 12:25,26 challenges me: “There should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.”
Girls are part of the body of Christ. They are suffering—and they don’t even know it. Because they are suffering, we all are suffering. This is why it’s vital for the body of Christ to step up. How do we show equal concern for them? What can I do? What can you do?
Now, I have a tendency to bemoan the style of clothes available for little girls. (Don’t get me started on trying to find appropriate clothes for my 11 year old who is already taller than the average adult.) I easily jump on the blame-celebrities-who-wear-practically-nothing bandwagon. Sure, blaming and bemoaning is a strategy, but I don’t think it’s a good one. It’s not proactive and accomplishes nothing. I can’t change what celebrities wear, and I can’t force designers to produce something both cute and modest.
So I’m looking for the positive ways you encourage the girls in your life, whether you are raising them or you support those who are raising them.
- How do you make the girls in your life feel cherished, valuable, and beautiful?
- How do you teach girls to celebrate, but not flaunt, the femininity God gave them?
- Starting with the crushes that develop in third or fourth grade, what conversations do you have with girls about the boys in their lives?
- How do you encourage girls to believe what God says—that character and faith are worth far more than charm and beauty?