Prayer Helps Heal Hurts
Pray for one another, that you may be healed. James 5:16
There may be no more powerful healing tool for relationships than prayer.
Amid every argument in marriage, couples can find common ground in yielding prayer: "Not My will, but Yours, be done" (Luke 22:42). There's an important healing message as two agree in prayer, declaring their dependence upon their Creator. When couples declare together God's greatness, their pride is shattered and their relationship is healed.
An important dimension of prayer that Teresa and I have found helpful is our prayer together after apologies. James 5:16 gives us a formula for relational healing: First, to confess our sins to one another and then to pray for one another. In His infinite wisdom, God declared an important guideline for healing in relationships—apology followed by prayer.
Recently after hurting Teresa with an impatient, short response, I was convicted to apologize. "It was wrong of me to hurt you with my insensitive response; I'm sure it hurt you. I was wrong; will you forgive me?" We embraced and she whispered, "I forgive you." As we stood there embracing, I whispered a prayer, "Lord I don't want to hurt Teresa with my words or attitude. Change me, Father; make me more sensitive to her. I want to love her better?'
The combination of my humble apology and then my request for God to intervene has proven time and again to bring healing in marriage. I've discovered that as Teresa senses my heartfelt understanding of how I have hurt her and then hears my admission of wrong, she feels respected and valued. Then as Teresa hears my prayer to God and request for His power to make necessary changes in me, she feels secure. As I pray the prayer of James 5:16, hurts are healed.
What confession might need to be shared with your spouse?
What prayer might your spouse need to hear?
Thanks, Lord, for Your healing plan.