We tend to become very polite when we pray. In general, politeness is a good thing, but we often color our politeness with heavy doses of deference. In prayer, that may be very appropriate at times. But usually it’s very limiting.
For example, how many times have you heard someone pray a solidly biblical, God-honoring, kingdom-promoting prayer and then tack “If it’s your will” onto the end of it? If you really don’t know God’s will in a matter, that’s fine. But when something is already God’s clearly stated will as revealed in his Word? If it opposes the kingdom of darkness and aligns with the kingdom of light? There’s no reason to be tentative in matters like these. It’s his will already. He said so. Pray fearlessly.
Yes, Jesus once told the Father, “Not my will but yours.” But that wasn’t because he was tentative about his prayers. It was because he was submitting his surface desires to the Father’s deeper desires—and to his own deeper desires to fulfill God’s purposes. He knew what he was asking.
By contrast, this same Jesus also told his followers, “If you abide in me and my words abide in you, ask whatever you wish and it will be done for you” (John 15:7). There are some conditions there, but the promise is sweeping. It’s an invitation be ask boldly, audaciously, persistently.
Defer to God when you don’t know his will. But when you do, ask for it without hesitation or apology. Bang on the door of heaven with expectant faith. And watch God open with the perfect answer at the perfect time.