Muffling Masks


We all have necessary masks that we wear to make it though the day. We need to remove them at some point to get the help we need. We need to find a kind, safe friend to share our hearts and hurts with.

She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. (Proverbs 31:26 ESV)

There are many perks for procreating, and although my quiver is not overflowing, I do enjoy the benefits of having birthed two girls.


My daughters’ tub surround is full of all kinds of smelly bath oils, scrubs and masks. Knowing that I raised them to be generous, I often help myself on the rare occasion when I get some quality soaking time.

Which is how I discovered an inexpensive mask that thrills my soul. It truly does. Freeman Charcoal & Black Sugar Polishing Mask is sold at most local discount stores for under $3. (No, I am not getting a kick-back or bonus for this review). I am sharing this because we women like to sometimes pamper our skin and we can so easily be swayed into taking out second or third mortgages when we go to drug stores. It’s a dangerous place – cosmetic counters – especially as we age and gravity sets in.

Anywho, now I am enjoying my very own tube of the bargain beauty mask and loving it. As for my girls, I was quite thrilled to find that they had learned from their mom the importance of good stewardship and being frugal. It's better to buy a $3 tube than the overpriced stuff because it leaves us with cash to give and help others.

Skin freshening masks are great but there are masks we women wear that are less appealing. (You know the ones I’m talking about . . . ) You should be familiar with the ones we don’t wash off but usually plaster on just before we walk in the doors at church!

‘Oh yes, I’m great! How are you?’ she quickly diverts, not divulging that she is struggling to make ends meet.

‘Oh, he’s not feeling well today so he stayed home.’ But she doesn’t reach out and tell a trusted friend to pray as the reason he’s ‘sick’ is due to a secret addiction or mental illness.

‘My word, can you believe it?’ she says, pulling her long swept bangs over a black eye, ‘I am so clumsy it’s beyond silly!’ No, it’s not silly at all. Sisters are being smacked around in our churches and we need to reach out and help!

Ladies, these are necessary masks some of us wear to make it through the day. I get that. But we need to be removing them at some point to get the help we need. There is no shame in asking for a financial hand,  prayer and counsel for a struggling spouse, or a safe place away from angry fists. And for those of us who are privileged to come alongside a hurting, unmasked sister, we need to be in submission to the Lord and not gossip or ‘share’ these prayer requests with others.

Lord, help your daughters! We are crying out from behind muffling masks! Help us to find a kind, safe friend to share our hearts and hurts with. And then help us sisters to zip our mouths shut and not gossip about our hurting friends. Lord may we be Your hands, feet, and heart and truly show love to each other! In Jesus’ name, Amen!


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