I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. (Galatians 2:20 ESV)
I am quickly approaching my fiftieth birthday, a milestone to be sure. So many I know are around my age and I’m finding a few of us struggling with a woman’s version of a mid-life crisis.
I’ve even had women tell me that they ‘hate their lives’.
Most of our children have flown the coop, some of us have returned to full-time work, or are dealing with sick or dying parents. It’s a time of identity crisis for sure. Who am I? What is my purpose? With these questions, many are examining their lives and finding themselves lacking. I know I am guilty of comparing myself against my peers.
The world would like us to respond to this by watching hours of Dr. Phil or Oprah and reading dozens of self-help or self-esteem books. After all, YOLO, right? (You Only Live Once). We need to take care of ourselves and grow and be the best ‘we’ we can be! Right?
But wait. What does the Word say? How do we establish and find our true identities?
We are dead.
Just think about those popular zombie movies and shows. That’s us. We are to be the walking dead. OK, maybe not like zombies, but our selfish wills and ambitions are to be dead. And this is a good thing!
Our enemy wants us to hate our lives here. He wants us to be self-depreciating and loathing. If we walk around defeated, we sure aren’t being a light! Oh, he has many other tactics too . . . such as to get us so dedicated to change we are distracted and selfishly focused entirely on ourselves and our fleshly goals.
No. We need to seek Jesus. Desire Him. We need to read the Gospels until we get it. Until we no longer care about our dress sizes, house square footage or what’s parked in our garage. We need to realize that Jesus himself is our measuring rod. He had nowhere to lay his head and lived for others. We are in Him and our lives should be lived out for Him. As the Holy Spirit is welcomed afresh each day, He will lead us in healthy, productive lives that glorify Him – not ourselves.
Father, forgive us for not getting it. Forgive us for being so wrapped up in this life that we have lost sight of our life in You. Help us to throw off the burdens of comparison that the world has placed on us and to turn our hearts towards You. Thank You for Your grace and love that defines who we are! Amen