Me First


Karen Stubbs offers some easy ways to teach your children to think of others and to love generously.

Proverbs 18:1

An unfriendly man pursues selfish end; he defies all sound judgment.

If you follow the motto, “All for one and one for all” in your family, then you will surely find push back from the children at different times of their lives. At some point, your son may protest to going to yet another dance recital of his sister or vice versa, a daughter tires quickly of hot summer baseball games. But, we need to teach our children how to be unselfish and to think of others before ourselves. This lesson is a hard one because humans are selfish creatures by nature. One of the first words a child learns after the initial “DaDa”, “Hi”, and “Bye” is…“mine!”

Moms, you have your work cut out for you! But even though it is a hard job you must press on and teach your children how to think of others and to love generously. These are a few easy ways to implement this lesson in “real” life:

  • Make an exercise for one week that the first born always go last: last to get in the car, last to fix their plate at dinner, last to walk through the door; after his week is up, let child #2 take a turn and go down through the whole family.
  • Take your child to the store and have them pick out a toy they would like, after purchasing the toy, ask them to whom they would like to give the toy.
  • As the children are playing together and a tug of war develops over a prized toy, sit down with your children and come up with a game plan to share, giving everyone a turn.  If no one can agree on a plan, Mom takes the toy and puts it away.

Unselfish behavior has to be learned, because it does not come natural. We must teach our children in order for them to live a life of “You first.”



I struggle in this area of selfishness in my own life, so why am I so surprised when my children act selfishly? God, give me patience as I teach them how to live, putting others first. Give me the love that I need to not become frustrated or aggravated with my children when they are selfish. Help me to remember that I can be just as selfish in my own way.

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