Do you need a hug? More importantly, what kind of hug do you need? Sometimes we need to simply ask our spouse what she needs for a hug. Hugs can come in all sorts of forms, I know that a great hug for my wife is when I fold the laundry, wash dishes, or goof off with the kids. What kind of hugs does your spouse like? Ask. Do. Enjoy.

Second marriages can often struggle with a lack of trust. You got burned once, who says that it can’t happen again.

Validate. Validation is a great way to help someone gain trust. Simply allow your new spouse to feel whatever he or she is feeling and then respond by asking questions. “What can I do to earn your trust?” “What do you need from me right now?”

These kinds of questions will go a long way in building a new foundation.