“A great marriage isn’t something that just happens; it’s something that must be created." Fawn Weaver
You can create an even greater marriage or revive a struggling relationship by using the tools of God’s Word. Which tool is needed most in your marriage?
Tool 1: 1 Peter 5:14
Notice your spouse each evening when he/she returns home. Go to your partner, initiate contact with a smile, words and touch. Stop what you’re doing and make it a priority to reconnect with your loved one. Communicate that you’re glad to see them. A warm welcome goes a long way to encourage closeness. You’ll be using the tool by: Greeting them with a kiss of love.
Tool 2: 1 Thessalonians 5:18
Every marriage has its ups and downs, but one sure way to shorten those down times is to give thanks for your spouse. Begin by listing at least six areas of genuine thankfulness you have about your relationship and your marriage partner. Be specific. Look particularly for things you might take for granted. For example: “I’m grateful for your hard work as a provider for our family.” “I’m thankful for your loyalty and faithfulness to our marriage.” When those inevitable down times come, take out your list and review. You’ll be using the tool by: Giving thanks in everything.
Tool 3: Ephesians 4:15
Are there some changes you’d like to see concerning improvements or changes in your marriage? In order to get the best reception from your partner, you’ll want to communicate these changes in a loving manner. Here are some sentences to get you started: “It would be important to me if…” “It would mean a lot to me if…” “I’m looking forward to the time when we…” You’ll be using the tool by: Speaking the truth in love.
Tool 4: 1 Corinthians 12:25
Do you want to improve the friendship between you and your spouse? Recall some of the fun activities you enjoyed during your dating years. Surprise your partner by repeating history. Next, be sure to include your spouse in some of your own hobbies or interests. Finally, think about the things that your partner enjoys doing (even if you don’t) and ask if you can join in the fun! You’ll be using the tool by: Showing care for one another.
Choose at least one of the tools above and plan to initiate the changes. Don’t wait for your spouse. These tools are truths of God’s Word that you can live out, regardless of your partner’s participation. Watch carefully, as God brings beautiful changes to your life and relationship!
