Marriage Staff Meeting: Blessed to be a Blessing
It may not always feel like it, but you were abundantly blessed with the gift of your spouse. Scripture reminds us that, “The man who finds a wife finds a good thing; she is a blessing to him from the Lord” (Proverbs 18:22). And ladies, the Bible tells us that, “Every good thing given and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father” (James 1:17). Your husband is one of those good things that have come from the Father!
Make a special effort this month, to be a blessing to your mate. The Old Testament tradition of giving a blessing had several important ingredients. Use this framework to convey your own blessing!
- Plan a fun date together. Choose a special restaurant that you would both enjoy. Sit together, hold hands, and enjoy each other’s company. During dinner, apply the principles of the Old Testament blessing as a way to demonstrate your love for your spouse. First, move close to your partner and give meaningful touch.
- Next, express words of affirmation to your partner, “One positive quality I see in you is your_____ (name quality) and I see this quality displayed when… (Describe how your spouse demonstrates the quality).” Qualities you might affirm in your spouse include: generosity, forgiving spirit, patience, kindness, loyalty, gentleness, boldness, courage, diligence, enthusiasm, gratefulness, hospitality, etc.
- Next, verbalize hope for your partner’s future:
“I can see you one day being…
(i.e., a key influence at work, an example for the women in our church).”
- Finally share a commitment of your presence in your partner’s future, “I’m committed to… (i.e., growing old with you, helping you fulfill your dreams.)”
Enjoy the closeness that sharing a word of blessing brings to your relationship!