Marriage: Love Is Service


Love is a choice; love is a decision. It’s not a feeling. Love focuses entirely on the other person.

Love is more than cuddling by a fireplace. Actually, sometimes its the opposite of staying warm and toasty.

I have a vivid memory of my Pop and the daily commitment he had to his familyespecially how he served my mother. Its one way he displayed the Loving aspect of Championship Fathering.

One frosty Virginia Sunday morning, the family car was broken down and my mother needed groceries. Pop said, Come on, boys. Youre coming with me.” I can still hear his wing-tip shoes crunching on the gravel as he walked along toward the store and we followed him. It was not what I wanted to do that morning, but the experience stuck with me. And that experience still comes to mind when I think of a husband showing love to his bride.

That probably isnt the classic picture of love between a man and a wife. Its not like a scene from a romance novel or TV moviebut its real. Sometimes love means doing things you dont feel like doing. Its walking for groceries on a cold morning; its doing the dishes or laundry; its getting up at 3 a.m. to feed the new baby; its going out of your way because theres something she needs.

Sometimes love feels like drudgery! Its a daily grind! Its more about perseverance than its about romantic walks and cuddling by the fireplace.

Several authors have correctly pointed out that love is a choice; love is a decision. Its not a feeling. It isnt something we do because it makes us feel good, or we think were going to be rewardedif you know what Im saying. No, love focuses entirely on the other person.

Now, dont get me wrong. Romance is a good thingromance brings husbands and wives closer. Flowers, regular date nights, using pet names and all that are a big part of your marriage. But its more than that. If your bride is truly a high priority for you, that should be seen in the way you serve herthe hard work, the sacrifices, the inconveniences. Think of her first; tune into her needs; then just follow through.

As that great passage from the Bible says, [Love] always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

Written by Carey Casey

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