Learning to Let Go... Again!


As you learn to let go and trust God with your young adult children, He will continue to show Himself faithful.

Funny how our personal life lessons take a while to translate to our children.

God has NEVER dropped me. NEVER let me down. There are times and days when I was unsure, scared and full of doubts, but in the end, He always showed up and in the most unusual ways met my greatest needs. I’ve been a follower of Jesus for almost a decade, and in that time, I have filled five journals with memoirs of the faithfulness of God in my life.

Faithful to me in times of abandonment, faithful in times of near bankruptcy, faithful in times of deep depression, anger, resentment, betrayal, personal failing, lost hope, health, etc. No matter what circumstance I found myself in, God was with me. His promise to never leave or forsake me was trustworthy. Reliable. Accurate.

But when my kids became teens, it was like a whole new chapter in faith had to be re-written.

Ever feel that way?

Be encouraged, God is as faithful to meet our family's needs as our own. What is harder for us parents, is to resist the temptation to reach into their hormonal lives and shake their little (not fully matured) brains until they understand us. To manipulate their lives and schedules and activities to our comfort level and to re-arrange their priorities to match our own.

Why do we do that ?

Or more importantly why should we be tempted to do that? I think the answer is as simple as “fear." We have learned and are learning to trust God for our own lives, but letting go of our young adult children is a totally different deal. Let me encourage you to. Not literally let them “go” do whatever they want, but a letting go at the “HEART” level. It’s time to let God be God.

Definitely keep your behavior boundaries, keep your word and be consistent in your home to enforce the rules, guard your respect and promote your beliefs. But in the end, they have to discover the same truths and foundation values that you and I did. Some of that discovering is very difficult to watch unfold.

Resist the need to “fix” everything in their lives; let them stumble and bumble their way forward as you encourage, correct and protect them on the way. Stay in the Word of God to guide your own path, rely on the same faithful God to win the hearts and minds of your kids as he did your own.

In the end, if we let God take over, we’re really only accepting the reality of things as they have always been. Psalm 37 is one of my anchor-to-the-soul passages in the Bible. I’m sharing it with anyone who needs it now. My hope is you will find the truth of its words to allow you to once again, to find rest in remembering God’s faithfulness to all of us in every generation. Trust Him to reach your children when you can’t.

Psalm 37 (ESV)

He Will Not Forsake His Saints

Of David.

Fret not yourself because of evildoers;
be not envious of wrongdoers!
2For they will soon fade like the grass
and wither like the green herb.

Trust in the LORD, and do good;
 dwell in the land and befriend faithfulness. Delight yourself in the LORD,
 and he will give you the desires of your heart.

Commit your way to the LORD;
 trust in him, and he will act. He will bring forth your righteousness as the light,
 and your justice as the noonday.

Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him;
 fret not yourself over the one who prospers in his way,
 over the man who carries out evil devices!

Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath!
 Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil.
 For the evildoers shall be cut off,
 but those who wait for the LORD shall inherit the land.

In just a little while, the wicked will be no more; 
though you look carefully at his place, he will not be there.
 But the meek shall inherit the landand delight themselves in abundant peace.

The wicked plots against the righteous
and gnashes his teeth at him,
 but the Lord laughs at the wicked, for he sees that his day is coming.

The wicked draw the sword and bend their bows
to bring down the poor and needy,
 to slay those whose way is upright;
 their sword shall enter their own heart,
and their bows shall be broken.

Better is the little that the righteous has
 than the abundance of many wicked.
 For the arms of the wicked shall be broken,
 but the Lord upholds  the righteous.

The LORD knows the days of the blameless,
 and their heritage will remain forever;
 they are not put to shame in evil times;
 in the days of famine they have abundance.

But the wicked will perish; 
the enemies of the LORD are like the glory of the pastures;
 they vanish—like smoke they vanish away.

The wicked borrows but does not pay back,
 but the righteous is generous and gives;
 for those blessed by the LORD shall inherit the land, 
but those cursed by him shall be cut off.

The steps of a man are established by the LORD,
 when he delights in his way; though he fall, he shall not be cast headlong,
 for the LORD upholds his hand.

I have been young, and now am old,
 yet I have not seen the righteous forsakenor his children begging for bread.
 He is ever lending generously,and his children become a blessing.

Turn away from evil and do good;
 so shall you dwell forever.
For the LORD loves justice;
 he will not forsake his saints.
 They are preserved forever, 
but the children of the wicked shall be cut off.
 The righteous shall inherit the landand dwell upon it forever.

The mouth of the righteous utters wisdom,
 and his tongue speaks justice. The law of his God is in his heart;
 his steps do not slip.

The wicked watches for the righteous
and seeks to put him to death.
 The LORD will not abandon him to his poweror let him be condemned when he is brought to trial.

Wait for the LORD and keep his way,
 and he will exalt you to inherit the land;
 you will look on when the wicked are cut off.

I have seen a wicked, ruthless man,
 spreading himself like a green laurel tree.
 But he passed away, and behold, he was no more;
 though I sought him, he could not be found.

Mark the blameless and behold the upright,
 for there is a future for the man of peace.
 But transgressors shall be altogether destroyed; 
the future of the wicked shall be cut off.

The salvation of the righteous is from the LORD;
 he is their stronghold in the time of trouble.
 The LORD helps them and delivers them;
 he delivers them from the wicked and saves them,because they take refuge in him.

Remember, we know how the story is going to end… God Wins.

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