Keeping Our Distance


Love your sisters in Christ in such a way that they can be open and know that they have a trustworthy friend and a listening, compassionate ear.

As far as the east is from the west, so far does he remove our transgressions from us. (Psalms 103:12 ESV)

My husband and I are careful givers and tend to investigate a cause or ministry before we write checks. The other day during one of these fishing expeditions, I started to ponder the term ‘at arm’s length’ that described the relationship of certain charity board members. (At arm’s-length describes a relationship in which the parties act independently of each other).

Which got me to thinking about us Christian women . . . because we can definitely be guilty of keeping ourselves at arm’s length from each other at times.  I know that after my divorce, I was shunned and pushed away by some of my closest friends. The pain I was going through was only magnified by having to walk it alone. As a result of this rejection and/or judgment, so many of us move forward, but wearing masks and treading oh-so-carefully through the church foyer.

An online survey I put out last year for a book in progress had a heartbreaking 59% of women respond with, "I let a few women see the real me but I am careful". Really?  Is this the best we can do ladies?

The Lord forgives and removes our sins – not placing them on our lap or the empty seat next to us on the pew – but as far away as far away can be! We need to do the same for our sisters-in-Christ and love in such a way that they can be open and know that they have a trustworthy friend and listening, compassionate ear.

Father, forgive us for the distance we put between ourselves as Your daughters. Help us to see each other through Your forgiving, grace-filled eyes. Holy Spirit, please pour into our hearts the genuine love and acceptance that only You can give. In Jesus’ name, Amen!

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