Keep it Hot
For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. Genesis 2:24
Attention deficit disorder, ADD, is a source of some serious frustration for a lot of people. But it isn’t just individual lives that are affected by it. A lot of marriages have ADD too.
When children enter the family equation, a lot of couples begin to drift apart. The time they spent together before, the attention that they gave to one another and the intimacy they used to share are no longer priorities. Too many husbands and wives are putting themselves on the back burners so that they can focus on the kids 24/7. But to do the family God’s way, the marriage has to come first. And one of the key elements of a successful marriage is heat.
If the marriage is hot, the family will be hot. But to keep it hot, you have to be very intentional about dating, courting, and romancing your spouse. Don’t just give up because you have children. The relational needs that you had before kids are still there after the children are born. And you’re not doing you’re kids any good by neglecting those relational needs.
Take the time to focus on your marriage. Be intentional about romance. Send love notes; go on regular dates; spend time alone with your spouse. Don’t neglect your marriage just because you have kids, because your kids need to learn what marriage is really about.