Is It Wise to Live Together?


You and your girlfriend may share a strong faith, but how will you resist sexual temptation if you're sharing the same bed?

"I realize that we'd probably deal with temptation, but we're very mature for our ages and we each have strong faith."

Q. My girlfriend and I are strong Christians, and we really believe God has brought us into each other's lives. Through my relationship with her, I've learned what it means to be a real Christian-not just someone who talks about being a Christian. Our families agree that we are a good match for each other, but she lives pretty far away. So I'm wondering: Do you think it would be OK for us to live together after we graduate? We'd probably share the same bed, but we are both virgins and we want to save sex for marriage. I realize that we'd probably deal with temptation, but we're very mature for our ages and we each have strong faith. What do you think?

A. My first response to your question? Good luck with that. Seriously, I know you have the very best of intentions to stay virgins despite living in the same place and sharing the same bed. But I also know that all the good intentions in the world can't stand up to the way it feels to snuggle up in bed with someone you love. If you love and respect each other, don't put each other in a position where you are faced with the temptation to have sex.

The two of you are more than boyfriend and girlfriend. You are her brother in Christ and she is your sister in Christ. That means you need to help each other live the way Jesus showed us to live. Like you said, you don't want to be someone who just talks about being a Christian, but someone who actually lives like a Christian. That means helping each other live up to the commitment you've made to save sex for marriage.

So, plan to get separate apartments. It might cost more money, but you'll be saving something far more precious.

Written by Carla Barnhill

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