I Urge You to Consider This
Now we exhort you, brethren. 1 Thessalonians 5:14
Have you ever known someone so concerned about an issue that he or she strongly urged you to do something about it? To that person, the issue was so critically important that just asking you or mildly pleading with you wasn't enough, so he or she urged you strongly to take action.
There are issues like that in marriage. For example, when I was going through some tough emotional struggles in church ministry, Teresa urged me to get some wise counsel from a church elder. I was losing sleep, seldom eating, and becoming very moody. Teresa was so concerned about my pain that she urged me to get another's perspective. Unfortunately, I felt a sense of threat about going. After all, the way I saw it, those in full-time ministry are supposed to have it all together.
I'm glad to report that I went and sought counsel and that the added perspective helped me a lot. But I trace it back to my wife caring enough to urge me to go.
In today's Scripture verse, Paul exhorts readers with passion and urgency. As we read the letter of 1 Thessalonians, we find his exhortation is not about minor or insignificant issues but major ones. Issues of right believing and faithful living are at stake. Saving strong exhortation for the "big" things is a great lesson to take from this passage.
When a situation in marriage is serious enough to require much more than a simple "please" or "I hope you will," we need to urge our spouse to take a course of action. When someone is urging you about something, make sure you listen to what he or she says. The fact that the person is urging you about it means he or she sees it with utmost seriousness.
What steps can you take today to know if you and your spouse
need to strongly urge each other to take action?
God, help us to know when to urge our spouse about something.