I Need You!


Be vulnerable with your spouse by expressing your needs.

He received his entreaty [and] heard his supplication. 2 Chronicles 33:13

I had been feeling lonely for several days due to David's coming home later and later. After he made it home I knew how tired he was, so I pretty much left him alone. The lack of intimacy, the loneliness, and the feeling that I was in second place to him were taking their toll on me.

But I knew that if I had approached David with, "I'm sick and tired of your being late!" or "Why can't you ever come home on time?" it wouldn't produce a desire to change. In fact, it would have made things worse. One Thursday evening when we were in bed, I felt the need to bring up my feelings to David. I reached over and touched my husband, looked at him, and said, "I've been really feeling lonely lately. I'll be glad when we can spend some quality time together?' He responded in just the way I had hoped he would.

I had directed the focus at my need rather than at his behavior, so he didn't feel defensive. He realized how busy he'd been, and he wanted to make some adjustments in his schedule. He took that Monday off to spend time with me.
You see, my vulnerability in sharing my need with David was the tool God used to convict David of the need to change his schedule to make time for our relationship.

Hearing the Lord's quiet voice through our spouse's vulnerability can be challenging, but the certainty and security it brings into the marriage relationship are very fulfilling. God uses loving vulnerability in marriage to heighten our sensitivities to His voice. Our spouse is blessed by divine encouragements, and God is blessed that we've sought Him in the matter.

What needs do you need to bring to your spouse's attention
today? Have you brought them to God first?

Father, thank You for knowing my needs, and thank You for a spouse who hears You.

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