I Need Help for a Serious Problem with Pornography
Can you help me overcome my problem with pornography? It’s really hard to admit this, but I think I might even be addicted.
Take heart—you’re not alone. Sexual addictions of all kinds have become widespread in contemporary society. In fact, contrary to the common stereotype, it’s not just a male problem. It affects men and women, boys and girls, from every age group and all walks of life. Because it is rooted in the basic human craving for relationship, sexual addiction is tenacious and progressive in nature. To put it another way, porn is powerful because it offers a counterfeit form of intimacy and attachment. It’s important to keep these things in mind as you make a determined effort to free yourself from the deception that de-personalized sex can ultimately satisfy the longings of the human heart.
The good news is that effective help is available. We suggest that you begin by seeking professional counseling. If you are married, we highly recommend that you do this with your spouse. The most successful course of treatment takes a family systems approach that involves an initial program of intensive therapy, followed by regular and ongoing counseling sessions. Also key to recovery is identifying a trusted friend or group of individuals who will provide an environment of support and accountability.
You might also consider installing some accountability software on your computer. Please be advised that software programs of this nature are not the ultimate answer to the serious and complex problems like those you mentioned, but we feel strongly that they can play an important role in helping you keep tabs on the entire family’s online activities.