How to Bust Small Group Busters
Do these small group busters sound familiar?
- Sarah routinely arrives fifteen minutes late.
- Jennifer derails the discussion to superficial topics.
- Stephanie attends half the meetings and rarely notifies you when she's not coming.
- Tina never says a word.
- Marie, on the other hand . . .
Leader, are you getting a headache yet?
Busters Because . . .
Small group busters often arise when expectations aren't clearly established from the get-go, or when a healthy group cruises on auto-pilot, and bad habits creep in.
Many small group busters you bump into can be averted by establishing a community covenant. A covenant is an agreement expressing group practices, expected behavior, and shared values. When members sign their "Jane Hancock" on the document, it validates mutual agreement and responsibility for a positive community experience. A covenant also serves to avoid unmet expectations and misunderstandings.
The best agreements specify a time limit. Will it last for one year, or for the length of a particular study? At subsequent intervals, review key points of the covenant during a group meeting. As the leader, you'll be expected to winsomely enforce the guidelines as need arises.
Read on for eight suggested values to include in a group covenant. Then customize it to fit your group needs.
8 Small Group Values
- Confidentiality What I hear and see in the group will stay in the group.
- Authenticity I will be as open with my life as I can be at this time.
- Love I will affirm you no matter what you have said and done in the past. I will love you as you are now and pray for God to continue to transform you into the likeness of His Son.
- Accountability I will ask the group to hold me accountable for specific areas of my life. With my permission you can ask me about the goals I set regarding God, my family, my personal life, and the world. I expect you to lovingly not "let me off the hook." On the basis of Proverbs 27:17, I ask you to please share with me areas in my life that do not reflect Jesus, because I want to grow in personal holiness.
- Prayer I promise to pray for others in my group on a regular basis, lifting them up to the Lord.
- Encouragement I understand every woman in this group is at a different point in her journey with the Lord. I will accept you the way you are, but encourage you to progress in becoming more like Jesus.
- Commitment I will have my work completed when I come to group. I will choose to attend each weekly meeting even if I fall short. I will make every effort to be present and on time. It will have high priority in my schedule.
- Participation I will do my part to keep the discussion centered on biblical truth and the text we're studying. I will contribute to the discussion without dominating. I will be sensitive in allowing members to share equally as we grow in Christ together. Scripture will be our final authority.
How will you incorporate a Small Group Covenant to bust pesky group busters?
Written by Leslie Bennet