Everyone wants to be happy, but few know how to be. Amy and Michael Smalley discern the difference between finding happiness and being happy.

One of the issues we find over and over again in our Marriage Restoration Intensive program is that individuals in marriage really, really want to be happy. The problem is, however, that they tend to believe happiness is somewhere out there, and more than likely, not in their marriage. They believe if they could only get out of their marriage, they could finally find happiness.

This issue of happiness comes up so often that we were finally forced into developing a theory on happiness. We’re not the first to do this, of course, but we do like on the firm statement we landed on. Are you ready for it?

You can never find happiness, you have to BE happy.

What do you think of this quote? Is happiness something you can discover with someone or something? Or is happiness something you need to choose? Is happiness a circumstance or a decision?