Heart of the Matter


Give your offenders the benefit of the doubt. Ask Him to take your emotions and replace them with His love and compassion.

Jeremiah 17: 9

The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?

Our emotions can rage war within us on a daily basis, if we allow them to control us.  With one negative comment from someone or a smirk on a family member’s face, our emotions can send us down a path where we believe people are angry at us, or cold hearted or even disliking us.  But, the fact of the matter is we do not know what people are thinking and we should not allow our emotions to get the best of us. Emotions do not always represent truth. 

If we believe the lie that our emotions represent truth, we could potentially bring down a friendship, or we could begin to build walls to protect ourselves from people. Walls only separate us and keep us isolated.  In a mom’s world, isolation is not always a good thing.  Instead of building walls, try renewing your mind, telling yourself the truth: emotions do not always represent truth. Give your offender the benefit of the doubt. Try to believe the best in the other person and remind yourself that no one really knows the heart of another person.  Only God knows someone’s heart. 

Next time someone offends you, whether it be a family member or a stranger, try to not give into your emotions and spin out of control. Instead, look to the Lord to give your hurt to, and ask Him to take your emotions and replace them with His love and compassion.  You might be surprised at how seldom people will seem offensive to you with this new way of living. 


Father, Only You know a person’s heart. Therefore, I will look to You to be my guide and my protector. I do not want to live a life with walls built all around me, not allowing anyone close. God, I want to push past my emotions and learn how to extend grace and mercy to everyone I come in contact with. I can only do this through You. 

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