Even if we don’t particularly feel like honoring the person who holds the title, we can honor the role they have played in the lives of our children.
Some holidays are just the pits as a single parent – definitely Mother’s and Father’s Day. Mother’s Day has been a bit problematic since my divorce. The leader of the party is gone and my children and I are left to celebrate without him.
It can be awkward. Do I tell my children the day is coming? Do I give them the art supplies to make a card? Do I buy myself a present? Ugh. I’d prefer not to. In fact, I don’t. Although I've thought about it because my children feel the loss of that leader when the day arrives without cards or a gift.
I know my ex-husband doesn't consider it his job, but this is how I view it. Mother’s Day and Father’s Day are about our children. It’s about providing them the beautiful opportunity to honor their parents.
Even if we don’t particularly feel like honoring the person who holds the title, we can honor the role they have played in the lives of our children. We can remind our children of the day. We can provide the card…we don’t have to sign it. We can even purchase the gift. We can “plan the party” even if we don’t participate. We can bless our children by enabling them to celebrate their parents well.
It might be uncomfortable, but blessing our children is worth it.
Written by Sue Birdseye