Growing through Conflict
Song of Solomon 6:2
"My beloved has gone to his garden, To the beds of spices, To feed his flock in the gardens, And to gather lilies." NKJV
Conflict is a part of life, and because of that reality, we must be ready to learn from the disagreements we may have with others. One of the greatest ways to grow through conflict is to first take time alone and pray. Rather than acting out in anger in those first moments of an argument, stop and retreat to your corners. During those few moments, in a quiet place, spend time in prayer to the Lord. Don't simply pray that your spouse, friend or child will realize the error of their ways, but pray for your own heart to be changed. Ask the hard questions of God, "Was there something I did wrong?" "How could I have responded better?" No matter the circumstance, we are all prone to mistake and should be honest in evaluating ourselves.
After those moments of prayer and reflection, we can stand under the grace of God realizing His love is still upon us through Christ. When we stand in that reality, we are then in a better place to extend that grace and love to the one whom we are conflicting with. This way of processing conflict can help us all to grow through an argument rather than allowing an argument hurt a relationship.
Life Lesson: When you are praying through conflict, be open to correction, ready for instruction and grounded in grace.
Thank You for forgiving me when I have sinned against You. Help me to remember that grace so that I can be full of grace towards others who may hurt me. Fill me with Your Spirit so that I can be slow to speak and slow to become angry. Help me to grow closer to You through those times of tension and conflict. In Jesus' name, Amen.