Getting the Feeling Back
[He] is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think. Ephesians 3:20
For twenty-plus years of marriage, Joan and Allen had gone through the right motions. They greeted each other with hugs and verbalized their love. They regularly went on dinner dates, and each did special little things for the other. But now the "nest was empty," and both were feeling a little awkward and uncertain. They were committed to each other and committed to show kindness to one another, but there was little emotional involvement.
Joan and Allen thought that this was as good as marriage gets.
Without adequate emotional skills or purposeful development, adults often enter marriage hopeful of deep, emotional closeness but unable to achieve it. If they aren't careful, they can drift apart into their separate worlds. He can get absorbed in his career or hobbies, and she can escape into the world of the children, career, or just endless activity.
Father, thank You for feelings. Give me sensitivity to my own feelings and those of my spouse. Let me not be content with kind pleasantries but pursue true emotional closeness.