“Having purified your souls by your obedience to the truth for a sincere brotherly love, love one another earnestly from a pure heart . . .Therefore, rid yourselves of all malice and all deceit, hypocrisy, envy, and slander of every kind.” (1 Peter 1:22 & 2:1 ESV)
There are friends that you trust with your most intimate secrets and others that you only let in surface deep.
Yet, we call them both friends.
There’s a popular term, frenemies that helps to define this uncomfortable group of people we associate with, yet don’t trust. It can be defined as a person or group that is friendly toward another because the relationship a) brings benefits, but harbors feelings of resentment, distrust or rivalry, or b) is with someone who pretends to be a friend but is actually an enemy.
While this makes for interesting television or story development in a book, it should not be popular within our church body. But all too often, it is.
We need to examine our hearts and our motivations behind our relationships. Are we loving those around us with true friendship or are we conniving and two-faced frenemies?
Lord, forgive us for spewing words that wound and thinking thoughts that are not loving, kind and filled with grace. Cleanse and purify our hearts, change us that we would see and love others the way You do. Help us to be true children of God that build up the body and not tear down.